well, i couldn't quite get the script i mentioned below to work on my site and, after much emailing and online chatting (i must say the guys who wrote the script were excellent), i found a nice little script that was very easy to set up and seems to be pretty spam safe. i got it from here. in the end most of my problems came down to the fact that there are more scripts available for linux servers than windows ones. i'm on a windows one.
but the up-shot of it all is that i now have an email form on the web and ready to receive emails. if you want to email me go here. or use the link on the right-hand side of this blog.
on the stereo: 'seven nation army' by the white stripes, from the album 'elephant'. www.whitestripes.com